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August 17 记得当时年纪小篮子几乎是完美女性的代表：会做一手好菜，拍特别美的照片，会刺绣，还能写很好看的小说。昨天看她写的她妈妈的故事，挺有感触地。
我曾经义正词严的说，仅仅因为自己出生地或者生长环境和别人不同，就自以为比别人优越几分，是没有自信和底气的表现。比如上海人以为所有的外地人都是乡下人，苏南人看不上苏北人，巴黎人把所有巴黎以外的法国人都叫外省人，美国人干脆叫所有美国以外的都是international。分明是这些人实在没有别的可以来和别人differentiate了，只好拿这个来说事。而且还是对方无能为力无法控制的事情。
我当然知道，10多年前的我，也是其中的一个。无知无畏，会对北方同学吃螃蟹的样子大惊小怪，地理知识极差，对自己的无知不以为耻。
只是我那时不知道自己是多可笑多没有自信。我也不知道自己曾经刺伤过多少其他人一样年轻的心灵。
然后到了上海。仿佛看到镜子里的另一个自己。我反而能够冷静的，无动于衷的看自以为的“上海人“的轻视。我那时也不记得自己曾经是一种的一个。只是觉得为此动怒不值得。
然后到了美国，上的并不是顶尖的学校。偶尔和意气风发的ivy league同学接触，我也会提醒自己，只是不同而已。偶尔想起当年，我会汗涔涔，非常感激当年的同学对我的宽容。
然后到了欧洲，看到多方角度，我才真正开始有一颗平和的心。
重新回到美国，我也和所有的international一样，齐齐嘲笑美国人是多arrogant，多ignorant。有那末充沛的自然资源和人才，这个国家完全可以更大气。（还是说，正因为他们什么都有，才如此狭隘）
我仍然会讽刺，不过更多的是自嘲。
我也终于学会原谅自己，总算有理由说，只是当时年纪小。
可是我不能去想的是，如果再来一次，会不会少一点遗憾，多一些朋友，会不会我比现在更幸福一点。
真的不在于你我在哪里出生，哪里长大，哪里求学，哪里工作，只要你我不同，就能给我们认识的世界多一个窗口，给我们的争论的东西多一个角度，我们和真实的距离会更近一点。 July 12 shenyh's blog毕业了，要工作了，不能像个孩子一样横冲直撞的了，要收拾起自己，做事细心小心谨慎，脚踏实地，内敛含蓄……好多好多都要记着 还要养成习惯，写写东西，记录自己的每一天，得好好的写，加油！ March 16 适应一直要等到我回到美国，我才知道，我一直都没有机会好好认识这个国家。
这个地方节奏太快了，我不喜欢。以至于我早上上班收音机里开的是宗教频道，因为只有那个频道节奏慢一点。我可以有点休息。
欧洲两年半，有些东西已经潜移默化。岁月给我的痕迹比我想的要深。就如离开后才知道珍惜（比如说瑞士的低税收——啊，我这个唯利是图的小人） January 10 LuckJuejue once said that Bill referred me and B2 the lucky couple. I have to agree, obviously, we have been extremely lucky.
We are certainly not among the smartest people we ever know, although, unfortunately, I have seen very lucky individuals around me.
e.g. a few people who joined/left the company with a full year's salary package (or more) while still accompanied with the relocation package.
my good friend who had the opportunity to join the company with only half a year HE training, what is more, to launch the potentially blockbuster and the TOP country will be China, there are almost no other areas that you will have this situation. (who have ever had this opportunity? I have not heard any)
my good friend who joined a company with a MBA package but without a MBA degree
those whomever graduated around 1997-2000 from a US school, or, worked in the US during that period of time
I guess I have been blind that I only see the best examples
I also have:
two of my best friends who could not join their dream firms in the last round of interviews and end up with, well, mediocre companies... pity or not, that how life chose them or how they chose their life to be. I would not say that they are not leading a happy life. However, nevertheless, it is a pity (my pov of course)
I would not describe the following as pure luck:
he who has been the youngest fund manager in China
she who has been the youngest Mickinsey consultants and fulfilled her wish to be a PhD in finance
she who got a permanent job offer from Bank of America as a sophomore
she who has been one of the few leading markters in the global companies whom spent her last 20+ yrs in China
she who has been one of the few lawyers from the leading firms (can copy and paste the above story) whom spent her last 20+ yrs in China
he who has become a country head at age 30
even those who joined and become marketers without the "typical" background
I owe that to their persistency, diligency (not sure the spelling is all right), intelligence and enthusiasm. Of course, they have a gift in handling the people.
I describe them as success.
September 01 Another US tripIt is another US trip, one of the most tiring ones. I cannot wait for it to be done. Finally, I am so tired and stressful that I cried - otherwise it is impossible for me to get relieved.
Nevertheless, it has been such a rewarding one. In my route of growing up, I truely believe I have a lot to learn, and I have to keep an opmistic attitude. The people that I met are wondeful, I like every single one of them and I am grateful for knowing about and talking to them.
It is just another lesson that you always need to view one individual as a unique one, help to offer the choice, being sympathetic - it is almost the first time that I realized that the personal value in the business world is that I can help to achieve, both myself and the others.
其实只是一次面试经历，但是如果我能够在这个过程中接触到每个人的价值观，然后用在今后和他们的交往上，我觉得我达到了我的目标。
What has been really tiring is not the interview, it is the million thing that I have to finish according to the tight deadlines. I am so annoyed.
what they valued?
1) Kevin needs someone who can help him to handle the business issue, I should be very analytical, very prompt
2) Lori needs very much personal respect, and on top of that, value the personal touch, a lot of things we share in common- the dedication toward the work, the passion for the job, support from the spouse, previous experience in a global position
3) John is very result-oriented, a lot of things that we share in common - finance major, Europe experience, non-traditional approach to pharma, not hesitate to offer me very sincere advice, such as looking into the most burning issues in the business and being able to on top of everything
I owe the support from Christine and Stewart of course. I need to learn how to influence people. I am getting there.
being in marketing research actually provides me wonderful opportunity of learning people. I cannot wait to study from the consumer side.
April 02 Lessons last week - Oncology position, Kate Holloway DebriefLife is constantly changing, the passing week has been interesting too.
I have one reason that makes this oncology position unattractive:
- it is not a MR position
As a result I have not fought for that wholeheartedly, however it is a test-water tool that helps me know about Dianne:
- for her, the bottom line is always not to conflict with her personal interest: as a result, she said she would not support me to move ahead with this position, the reason is that I have only been on this position for 5-6 month. Despite of the truth, she is only here for 5-6 month HERSELF, BUT she moves on.
- I have not told her that this position is more related to forecasting. It is a double-edge scord, hurt me and can be used by myself as a reason that I CAN do that job. Of course it depends on whether I wanted to use it.
I have another reason that makes this oncology position unattractive: well, it is actually the same thing as the "MR" one, it is the timing. As I would not have as many opportunities to MR activities in the near future, I probably prefer my current job.
To some extent, it is a trade-off of job- family again, but I would not raise it to that level, that is too much and too cruel.
So, I may go back to tell Alice: it is an attractive position, and I KNOW I can do the job well; however, the timing is not alright - my manager is also planning to move on, if I move on at the same time, the recruiting for this organization will be too much; the position is not ideal - as my next move is "oncology MR" not "oncology forecasting". I really wanted to do more MR than forecasting. Having said that, would you still be interested in knowing about me and at least expose myself for future opportunities that may come up from your team. I am looking at Horizon of 6-9 months.
I could also insist that I wanted to move on and talk to HR and Sven. However it may hurt me and result in my not being able to move on.
Kate Holloway was able to use a way that makes my brand team listen to her. From her I really could learn sth..
February 18 Skill SetLessons from Kate Holloway's case (so far, and I believe I will have more)
Lesson from the payroll case
Lesson about summary/communication of important messages/presentation
Lesson about the TC with Genentech/Novartis US
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